Take bachelor Benjamin Koh, 36, a consultant in learning and development at a corporate training firm, who three years ago gave up on the Lovestruck app he used to meet people.He found the constant search for romantic possibilities tiring and fruitless.I'd think, maybe another girl would be better.'' MR BENJAMIN KOH, 36, on using a dating app .He found that having a stream of romantic possibilities was not conducive to finding a committed relationship and stopped using it three years ago This might seem counter- intuitive at first glance.In a sense, these numbers are not surprising as marriages worldwide are following the same trend: people are getting married later - or not at all.Delaying marriage is reflective of most developed countries, says associate professor Paulin Straughan, a sociologist at National University of Singapore (NUS). I sometimes spend weekends with my elder brother and sister and their children.
She adds: "When you're older, you're also more likely to know what you want and less likely to compromise." The median age for first-time grooms in Singapore rose from 29.1 years in 2003 to 30.2 years in 2013. If so many people want to put a ring on it, why is it not happening?Complete Me, a dating agency with a 3,000-strong database, set up a personalised matchmaking service for above-35s last year that has since seen a 40 per cent rise in customers.Ms Anisa Hassan, managing director of It's Just Lunch Asia, which matchmakes professionals over a meal, says: "In the past, people who were married before might have felt that the best years are behind them.Older singles Life interviewed say the challenges they faced include ambivalent attitudes towards dating, dwindling social circles, a mismatch in expectations and a self-sufficient lifestyle.Sometimes I would meet someone who I may not have had any connection with.
One criterion for her partner is that his salary should be similar to hers, that is, at least $9,000 a month, an amount she says is "realistic" for someone in his mid- to late-40s.